Why is it….
that EVERY time i go out with my mom, i get into an argument with her? even got a effin parking ticket today. I friggin hate Oakland. It’s fine, give some money to the city since it’s so crappy. Not usually in my nature to put down a city but I’m really heated right now so bare with me. Took my mom to this clinic for a cheaper examination for her teeth cause apparently, she could have a cavity. she kept complaining about the wait when it was only like…5 minutes. Then, I got tired of her complaining and just left and went to my car. Seeing that there was a parking sign that said i can’t park here, I think…ok..i’ll move my car. with the mind set, i called my mom to tell her i was moving my car but she was on the phone with my dad. I got out of my car and walked in to tell her i was moving my car seeing that she was up at the receptionist area. ok…i tell her, and i listened to what the receptionist said. within the 2 minutes i was in there, i got a fucking ticket. oh, another thing, i hate the way my mom talks sometimes. her tone when she talks is really rude. so i got heated and we start yelling in the car. the thing that bugs me, is the fact that she can’t do ANYTHING herself. yes, i know, she’s my mom, i should help her…but it makes her seem incapable to do things for herself. she didn’t go up to the receptionist until i left leaving her to be by herself. basically, i have to FORCE her to do things by getting mad and leaving.
WHY IS SHE LIKE THIS? she relies on my dad and i for everything. i mean, ok ya, she’s my mom and i should help her..but there is a limit. i love her and all, but i really want her to do things herself without me getting mad and leaving her to do things herself. another example, learning how to use the computer. it took her almost HALF a year to learn how to turn on the computer. you know why? cause my dad and i are there to help her. until i got mad and refuse to teach her, she learned quickly on how to turn on the computer. if you don’t threaten her to do certain things, she won’t do it.
example 2. the wii. i taught her umpteen times on how to turn on the game. until i refuse to teach her and her wanting to play mario kart, she learns. she relies on my dad and i too much. i honestly think my dad spoils her by allowing this to happen in results to ME getting pissed at her.
example 3. driving. unless i threaten to leave her certain places, she won’t drive home. no matter how close or far we are. of course i would never allow her to drive to places where there’s no local route cause i know she’s afraid to drive the freeways, but still! for example (example within example) we are at cvs pharmacy with my dad. she says..”ok i’ll drive sure”. we come out of the store and she refuses to drive. my dad goes, ok that’s fine, i’ll drive. i mean..COME ON DAD! seriously? stop spoiling her.
that’s why if my dad’s not around, i’m afraid to actually go any where cause she seems incapable to function normally without some one there to help her out. one time i went camping with friends and my dad was in china, she was forced to do things herself. drive herself to the hospital to visit my grandpa. but that’s the only thing she can brag about. yes, i’m proud of her..but she keeps repeating it constantly cause THAT’S the only incident she can honestly say she did without needing my help or my dads. i just wish she was more independent. i mean, i’m not as independent as my other friends, but i’m getting here and it frustrates me to have to help my mom with EVERY little tiny thing a functional person like her can do. UGH~!!!
